After 7 cycles of trying to get pregnant, I wrote this email to some close friends and family members. I guess you could say this began what turned into a blog, a book, and a Facebook page all about having hope during infertility.

I feel very much the same now after approximately 77 cycles of TTC. Well, I cry less because I’m more used to it. The bottom line is that we’re trusting God and not giving up. (Come back soon for a future blog post about at what point we’ll decide to quit.)

Hi ladies,

This is just a quick update and prayer request all in one. The news is, I’m not pregnant. I started my period yet again this week, being the 7th time since we started trying to get pregnant. I’ve cried all week instead of the normal day or two.

It’s becoming a very discouraging journey! I never would have thought I’d have trouble getting pregnant, as I’ve had the most regular cycles you can imagine. We’ve listened to advice, read a lot of books and info, been prayed for, and tried everything we know outside of medical intervention (and I’ve tried a lot of things, including ovulation predictor kits, and yes it says I’m ovulating and we’re timing things right, but no success). I really don’t want more advice on what to do (unless you can guarantee your advice will be revolutionary and that it will work). 😉

I really do want prayers! Prayers for peace in this season of life, and prayers for wisdom, and prayers that God would continue to build my marriage with my wonderful husband so that when the time comes for us to have kids we’ll be an even more happily married couple. And prayers that God will do what He wants to do in us. I’m realizing that the Lord probably is trying to teach me something good in all this and I’d much rather have the end product than the life lesson. It’s just been a really really difficult time.

You can assume we’re not pregnant and you can pray for us until we tell you otherwise! This is definitely not a challenge in life that I would have chosen but it is what it is. I’m sure there are things God wants us to learn through this (though He could make it easier!!) Just like the Lord had Mike and me wait a long time for marriage, for whatever reason He’s having us wait for kids.

And the best things in life are worth waiting for, right? I saw a baby onesie in a catalog at a friend’s house the other day, and it said on the front “I Was Worth Waiting For.” Lord willing, one day we’ll need this. 🙂

Please pray for us.

Thanks,

Betsy

Hi, I’m Betsy Herman and I live in the Washington, D.C. area with my husband, Mike. We have been married since 2008. We enjoy exploring new cities together on foot, eating at our favorite Italian restaurants, and doing life as a team.

I published my first book Embracing Hope During Infertility in January 2015 and I’d love for you to read it! My hope is that this book will infuse hearts with hope. 

You can learn more about me here. I would love for you to connect with me by following my Hope During Infertility Facebook page or my Betsy Herman, Writer Facebook page.

Thanks so much for reading my posts!